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When you marry, you want to receive a good-looking person, a good looking
woman, right? If everybody thinks like that, well, how many among you are
good-looking? Thus you must think differently or you will not be able to
go over the way of suffering. When the eyes hate something, if you can
say, "You eyes! That is the road of thorns which you have to go through,
but let's see what we don't want to see, and let us love as God loves,"
those eyes are beautiful. Other people cannot see in that way.
God thinks in this way. God is the world champion in appearing in disguise. You should think that the person who appears as your beloved spouse is a son or daughter of God, whom He truly loves, and that therefore He may come disguised as the most ugly person. If you love your husband or wife with those eyes, it has the same significance as loving God's son and daughter. |
| 2. | You should give particular attention to the reason why the Israelites collapsed in failure after they went into the land of Canaan. The Israelite second generation destroyed themselves by becoming materially centered and lavishing in luxury and physical pleasures following the way of the tribes already living in Canaan. Do not repeat the same mistakes that the second-generation Israelites made in the past. Instead, you should live a humble life by living according to God's instruction and by following the way of Divine Principle life. |
| 3. | For example, it is the formula that a person who looks like a triangle should meet an opposite-looking person, someone who is circular. Do not think of this as a difficult concept. It is the law of nature. The phenomena of the natural world can be checked against the predictions of the law of nature and be seen to agree. It is the same here. What can a thin person expect if he receives a thin spouse? That match cannot be successful now or in the future. Therefore, a thin person should be matched to a chubby person, and a short person should meet a tall person. What about a good-looking person? There is a saying, "A good-looking person has misfortune," right? That saying is true. When two good-looking persons meet, what will come out of it? None of their descendants will be good-looking. What starts out high will fall all at once. It is a fundamental law that if the goal is met at the outset, the future can only see decline. Therefore, if there is a couple composed of a good-looking husband and a good-looking wife, will it rise or decline? |
| 4. | It is the law of the universe that what goes up must come down. The "golden mean" in the Oriental philosophies stated this matter well. It says that if two good-looking people meet, the end will be near. Thus, a good looking man should be married to an ugly woman and a beautiful woman to an ugly man for there to be enduring prosperity. This is the only way to think. |
| 5. |
Let us say that there is a person with a face elongated like a horse's.
Then, what image is longer than that of a horse? It is the image of a grasshopper.
But then if you match a grasshopper-like person to that horse-like person,
what kind of children would they have? Think about what kind of children
they would have. Probably they will have a child with the image of a lizard.
That is the law of nature.
Because of this, all have to be matched to opposite types. To a person looking like a horse, Father has to give a person who is spread out sideways like a pumpkin or a round bucket. In this way, two opposite types can be harmonized well, and if they have ten children, they will have at least one or two useful children. But if I don't do that and instead give him the person he wants, when they have ten children, all of them will be useless. |
| 6. | Is Do Soon Choi here? If you look at her character, she is just like a man. Her husband has a gentle character, and that is why they are living harmoniously as a couple. Her husband has a calm, natural disposition. She has such a character that if her husband hit her by mistake, she would grab any thing around her and hit him back. But they are living together happily. They are living well together to this day despite her difficult character, because she has met that kind of a man. |
| 7. | But it is different with the Western people. In order to marry them, Father has to explain something first. Father explains that if possible, an older woman and a younger man should marry each other for them to live well together. Then they listen to Father well. But it is very difficult to convince Asians like Koreans and Japanese. Asians have the notion that it is a general rule for the bride to be younger. It is a traditional practice. But the Westerners are the opposite. As time passes, the persons who marry from extreme to extreme or pole to pole will be the best. |
| 8. | If a person is asked to pick his or her ideal mate by preference from many people, that person will not be able to select the ideal partner. If there is the east, there is also the west, and if there is the south, there is also the north. If an east-type person meets another east-type person, it will not be an ideal match because of the absence of west. And if a south-type person meets another south-type person, it will not be ideal because there is no north. That is why the east- type person should find the west-type person and the south-type person should look for and go to the north-type person. Do you understand? |
| 9. | Men naturally pursue women, but for what purpose - to receive love or to give love? That is the most important question. It is a serious problem that American people have not understood how universal law works. You men should never think, "I'm so glad I'm getting married because now my life will be easier. I will have someone to cook breakfast for me and wash my laundry, someone to serve me." But all of a sudden, that is not what happens and you start to complain, "Hey, what's happening here?" Your first concept was wrong; you are not supposed to get married in order to make your life easier. You should think that your life will get tougher, but you should be willing to do it in order to give love. |
| 10. | When you look at a beautiful woman, you should think that she is a temptress who came to take you out. It is more advantageous to look ugly than to look good. And if the spouse is too big, you should think that since God is big, He has allowed you to meet a big person. If you meet a small spouse, you should think that since God has many little creations, He has given you a small person. In this world people use beautiful women and handsome men for conspiracies. They deceive others using beautiful women and handsome men. Therefore, you should think that beautiful women and handsome men are dangerous beings who have a high possibility to become the tools of Satan. And how proud you could be by thinking that you have met a safe person who will not be used by Satan. |
| 11. | No matter how ugly the face is, that is not important. What matters is what kind of mind the person has. Thus, when you are asked whether to choose a wife with a nice face or a wife with a good heart, which one would it be? Also, you women, do you want to receive a man with a good-looking appearance or a man with a good heart? |
| 12. | When you get blessed, don't think you will get blessed to a beautiful woman. You must say that you will become a person who can prosper and live well by being the husband of the ugliest woman in the world. In that way, you should be a husband whom any beautiful woman in the world can respect. |
| 13. | If a lame, crippled person in the Unification Church and the king of the world both wanted to marry the same woman, to whom should that woman go? This is not a laughing matter. Where does she have to go? She must receive the cripple of the Unification Church. He might be crippled, but he could conceive a baby who will be a prince of the heavenly world. |
| 14. | Let's say there is a good looking woman among the blessing candidates. She might look splendid on the outside. But what is important is whether or not she has the value to exist in the future in front of the will of God. That is the primary question for the man whom that woman meets. |
| 15. | Why do you women marry? It is to inherit the foundation of thousands of years and of ten thousand generations of chosen people; it is for the future generations. If you marry for the sake of yourselves, you will destroy everything. That kind of decadent trend is sweeping over the world, and all of it has to be cut off. If you young women have that selfish thought, you are my enemies. |
| 16. | Despite the persection of the last 13 years in America, including unjust imprisonment, I have loved America with the heart of Jesus Christ who forgave his enemies even while carrying the cross and being whipped by Roman soldiers. You, Blessed Children, must have had a hard time when you were younger. Your parents often couldn't take care of you because they had to go to many places for the sake of God's will. Sometimes you must have complained a lot about your parents, but you must feel great pride in them now that you are old enough to understand what they were doing. |
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